Thank you to my readers

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how to raise your energy vibration with diet

It's common knowledge in the psychic and mediumship industry that performing mediums don't have food for some hours before they are due to connect with the spirit world. Any medium will tell you that the vibration of the earthly body is higher and more sensitive when food and drink are not being digested. When the body is not busy with basic functions it is free for other uses you see. This has long been taught to trainee mediums although there are no strict rules, each person works differently and finds their own way.

So to raise your vibration for meditation purposes, for clearer thought and for spiritual communion one of the starting points is with diet. Those of you familiar with Reiki will know of the cleansing period recommended before your attunement. At that time you are to think peaceful thoughts, abstain from alcohol, cigarettes, heavy foods and if possible red meat. Abstinence from all of these will help to lift your energy as they serve to make your energy denser, heavier and alcohol and smoking particularly punch holes in the auric field also affecting the strength of your psychic protection.

The healthier you can be, taking exercise, getting fresh air, laughing, being respectful towards others and being kind to yourself all bring your energy into balance and strengthen the aura against negative influence.

So what does raising your vibration mean? 

When we are concerned with earthly, physical matters then that is where we are directing our thoughts and energy and so it is where our focus lies, but when we want to elevate and expand the mind we need to think and focus on higher matters such as soul connection, consciousness, the cosmos, life after death, reincarnation, our faith (if you have one), angels, living well and so on. We need to leave our physical needs and habits behind for a while whilst this expansion takes place, thoughts alone, at this juvenile stage of development, cannot raise the energy vibration of the aura to such a level as contact with clarity can be made. 

When you sit to meditate do so on an empty stomach or some time after a light meal. For spirit contact, mediumship, the same. Our emotions are keener when we are hungry and we are more sensitive to outside influences. A good tip is to cut out sugar and caffeine too, so that the body's endocrine system is clean and can work with the stimulus that the spirit world use to communicate with us. (The endocrine system is the main part of the human body that spirit use to create feelings such as an emotion or a physical symptom which eventually builds a picture of a spirit person and their character or of a message for you.)

Raising your vibration means cleansing the body of poisons, artificial stimulants, sugars and drugs and alcohol. When the body is clear of toxins the aura will reflect the health of the body it surrounds just the same as when the aura reflects ill health in a person. The healthier you are the brighter your aura will shine and the stronger its natural protection against negative psychic forces and physical illness will be.

Foods that are of the earth vibration are the best to eat, such as fruit, vegetables and natural unprocessed foods. Avoid contaminants as much as possible and especially the dreaded aspartame, responsible for so much imbalance and ill health both physically and mentally. Drink water as much as possible and other clean drinks where you can. Shower frequently too to keep the aura cleansed and if you can endure it make it a cold shower or at least finish with a cold blast, it helps to close the chakras properly and creates a stronger aura.

You have to eat at some time of course, so make sure that you eat well, healthily and regularly. There is no point in being so hungry that you can't meditate because you can't concentrate. My own personal opinion of mediums not eating for hours before they are due to work is of it being unnecessary to some degree. You can't work if you can't concentrate and neither is it healthy for blood sugar levels and weight management. I see any self imposed restriction in the form of do's and don'ts as a mental block being put in place. If I believe that I can work no matter what the circumstances then I will be successful to some degree, if I want to improve I can instigate some of the purifying measures but I don't need to be extreme in any way. I am the master of my own mind and it is the biggest tool that I and spirit use.

Adding knowledge to yourself is very important in development too. The more knowledge you have in your head the more full your readings will be and the more information there is for spirit to use. Read everything you can get your hands on, learn, learn and learn again. Never stop growing and being inquisitive about the world that surrounds you and answers will be given and brought to you constantly. Look after yourself in body and mind and your intuition will reward you and you will be a balanced individual. Work lovingly with spirit and you will make a great medium, perhaps not famous, perhaps not rich, but one who works from the heart and is genuine. Development of spirituality is about self growth, not profit and gain in material wealth and should be treated with the reverence it deserves, after all, it is the most precious gift you can five to yourself and the hardest thing you will ever accomplish.

in response to a question - contact?

Hello Avril My wife recently passed and I am a believer of the spirit world. aged 47 following a long illness. I have had trouble sleeping and early one morning i felt a presence above my face. This the hay fever season and my eyes have been sticky in the mornings so usually i have to open them with my fingers. Feeling the presence I tried to open my eyes but for this reason I couldn't and when i went to move my hands towards my eyes i was unable to do so as if someone was holding my arms down. I was desperately trying to open my eyes and then i felt soft hair sweep across my face. I could then move my arms and managed to open my eyes but saw nothing. I wondered if that could have been the spirit of my wife visiting me as she said she would if it was possible and that she had prohibited me from seeing her. What do you think? on do you have a question?

Hello Anon, thank you for your question and I'm sorry for your loss. It doesn't matter where you believe your loved one is, it still hurts to be separated and it's important that you acknowledge and accept the grieving process so that you are able to find joy in life and I wish you well with the hugely steep learning curve you have before you.

Now to your question. I'm sure you know about sleep paralysis and so I won't patronise you with that explanation because you felt as though something else was going on and your intuition is your most reliable tool. Reading between the lines and my experience tell me that you were more likely to be receiving healing than having an encounter with your wife, however don't see that as a setback or a negative response from me because that's not the case. Often we receive healing and 'adjustment' to our energy frequency before we are able to sense the spirit world or someone who is passed and is trying to reach us.

However more information from you will help to assess your experience more thoroughly. Did you feel any emotion during the encounter? Was there something that gave you a recognition of her? that could be a memory, a feeling, just words that she used, music or how you felt when she was close. I know it's hard to analyse these fleeting meetings but you will be surprised at how much information you have stored during those few moments and that is always key to determine between an imagined experience and a genuine one. Write down how you felt, what you remember, your deepest emotion, if the visitor felt male or female, if there was one or more, where their vibration is located i.e. in earth energy, spirit world or higher like the angelic realm. You will know the answers if you relax and allow the information to pop into your head. Take your first answer as being right, don't argue or fiddle with your responses and confuse your knowledge. Do this at a time when you are relaxed and don't care too much about the answer, you must be impartial not to influence the result and be distant emotionally.

Once you have your answers you will have used your intuition and natural ability to read energy to gain the solution to your query just as an experienced energy worker does.

If you find that you know, deep down and without doubt that this was a visit from your wife then keep that knowledge with you and expect her to visit again, if however you feel that she may have been nearby and observing the healing you were receiving then expect her to approach you as soon as the grief is clearer in your aura as this foggy cloud keeps her at bay (this is not deliberate of course but because she can't penetrate the murk just like other beings, spirit or higher friends). If you feel your wife was nowhere near you at this encounter then expect her to come to you soon but in the meantime welcome the healing you are receiving in preparation. Remember though to always ask for the Divine light of infinitesimal brightness to come to you and protect you and heal you, don't accept anything less than the highest energy and knowledge or you may be misled or confused. Go for the purest form of healing and information for ultimate truth. Either way your wife is on her way to you and I suspect that you would like to know that she passed over safely, yes she did and it was your gift to her, allowing her to leave, that made it much easier for her to go. You loved her enough to understand and have received blessings in return although some days it doesn't seem like that for you. It's early days yet and improvement is on its way to you, meditate for peace and love to surround you rather than spirit connection and at some point in the near future she will be brought to you safely and you will be in no doubt of her presence.

Thank you for your question and for reading my blog, it's good to know that people are gaining some understanding and comfort from my writing and are gaining confidence in their beliefs and own powers.

Try the creation of love exercise on the blog and imagine your wife within the love you create, surrounding her and protecting her, you can stop there knowing that you have sent her your love and she has received it or you can step into the love light and join her for a while of reunion. Expect that to be an emotional meditation if you try it but I think you can handle it. Afterwards step out of the light and back into your body and remember to close down and ground yourself with psychic protection around the aura. All the information is on here and I wish you success, let me know how it goes. love and light Avril.

mirroring

Mirroring is a simple behaviour that happens around us often but you have to be alert and step back from your situation to recognise it.

This is how it works; someone quite close to you (but not always - could be a friend or acquaintance) will exhibit behaviour that you don't like, you find it offensive, irritating or simply infuriating. The person concerned repeats the annoying behaviour many times and the relationship breaks down, you don't understand their actions and for some reason they are the most irritating person in the world to you.
A way of looking at such a situation is viewing it as mirroring.

When someone does something or says something that really ticks you off, that you find rattles you, take a moment to consider why it offends you so much. Sometimes, but not always, your offense may be rooted in your own behaviour and the person can be considered as showing you an area of yourself that you need to work on and modify - known as mirroring.

For example, if you are faced with a person that always interrupts your words, does not listen to what you say no matter what the topic, then you could consider what it is about that situation that offends you and if you yourself do it to others. Another consideration is that you don't listen to others as you believe that you do and perhaps you are missing the point of issues raised or need to examine on a deeper level the meaning within them.

So often we gloss over things that are said and done, we skip over the surface of problems and also joys in order to move onto the next thing, the next phase of life. Maybe we should pause more often and absorb what is happening in the present, good or bad, easy or tough, because there is always more to everything we experience, always more to gain from it in terms of knowledge and understanding. From our experiences we grow and our energy expands and in turn our soul reaches further understanding.

We need all the experiences that life can offer so that the soul can become peaceful, it must know of everything, be everything, know about all that exists from the inside in order to reach its full light and potential of being. In that state is perfection and oneness with the light, the soul becomes the light.

So do not be afraid to feel, to experience and to examine all that happens to you and around you, that's not to say you should dwell, be morbid about sadder times or be guilty about mistakes, it merely means that you should try to understand, see things from all perspectives and accept the way things are at the present time, knowing that improvement will be coming to you in time.

Some people have very difficult lives whilst here on earth and often such people are kind, patient, have time for others and seem to accept what life has thrown their way. They are to be admired because they are moving through life's obstacles with grace. Some people can't manage to elevate themselves above their trials and bad times and they are to be offered understanding and compassion whilst they come to terms with things as they are. Nobody said life was easy but sometimes it seems so unfair, even so we must tune into our higher selves and find the peace that we all carry to help us through, trusting in our own judgement is key to our success and confidence.

Try the exercise on the blog for linking to your own spirit in the heart centre and maintain that connection once made and learn to trust yourself, your decisions and intuition to travel through life more easily and with the valuable feeling that you're not alone.

is the colour black bad or protection?

Many times I have had people describe spirit encounters to me and explain the fear they had when faced with a being in black from head to toe. People it seems, fear black as a manifestation, they see a spirit who is shrouded in black as a threat, something ominous and unreadable.

There is a simple explanation why spirit use black to cloak themselves and it is also something that I do myself. It is not a negative thing but quite the reverse. However there are dark spirits but they don't always present as so, they can trick you and show you whatever they want, it's up to you to ask to see their true self, if you don't ask, they wont bother.

When I am asked to clear a house or building or location of unwanted energy and activity I often do not want to announce my presence. I want to be able to sneak inside unseen and take a look around without drawing attention to myself. I don't want to go to the location in my healing state which is one of brightness, light and power. In order to clear an area it's necessary to make an evaluation and to be able to observe quietly any activity and to sense any vibration of energy without feeding it with power and light.

When I go to clear a home I ask that the householder not speak of the activity for the week prior to my visit, not mention the spirit or the fact that it is going to be moved on. I want to lull the spirit (especially if it is an unpleasant one) into a false sense of security so that it behaves as it normally would when I do arrive and does not know who I am, otherwise the spirit is likely to hide from me, to pretend to pass on, or be someone else, anything in order to get what they want and be undetected by me.

I want them to cooperate but if they won't then I will take them over whether they want to go or not. If they are causing problems for householders or locations then they need to go and indeed even for their own good, they are learning nothing by clinging to life here.

So that the attachment/earthbound spirit doesn't realise who I am when I first arrive there is often a bit of acting required on the part of the householder. Prior to my arrival I ask them to invite me in and offer me tea, we will talk like old friends, no mention of the purpose of my visit will be made. I need to assess the energy, read the intention of the spirit and contain it before I reveal myself. Remember some spirits are downright nasty and do not want to move on. Someone like me has to be tough with them, outwit them and take them home albeit kicking and screaming.

I remember one clearance I did that was at an old slaughter house. I was invited in and behaved casually. The spirit soon revealed himself to me. He was a huge man, unshaven with a big face. A rough man who stood over me and listened to our conversation. He was rude and lewd and very unwelcome. He had been causing arguments in the converted building between the couple living there, aggressive behaviour had been manifesting and many objects had been moved and lost. Financially the couple were struggling and their relationship was going very wrong.

Before I entered the property I covered myself in a black cloak of energy to disguise my own light. I wanted to be able to get close enough to the spirit to work on him without him seeing me - and it worked as it always does. The black cloak is wrapped completely around me, the cowl is drawn over my head and the cloak wrapped under my feet, no part of me is exposed, I am then disguised and can travel wherever I wish to work. The male spirit could not see me, I merged with his own darkness. He could see me as a living person but not my spiritual power which was a threat to him.

He played the game and came close to me, I could hear his voice, his thoughts and the disgusting words he uttered and his vile spewings. I ignored him. I spoke normally to the client, pretended I could not see him.

Then suddenly and quickly I encased him and his energy in a crystal. A prison to him. He called me lots of names and swore, angry and taken by surprise. He flailed his arms, punched at me and then I unveiled myself. He was silent. Seeing my light he knew that he was beaten and would not linger on the earth anymore.

I took him across for rehabilitation and from that day the financial situation eased for the couple, they became closer, had a child, life improved and has continued to do so for the following eight years.

Rescue and clearance work is not easy but it is necessary. All the foulness of that individual, his dark thoughts, murderous intentions and sexual vileness was polluting the atmosphere and affecting the inhabitants of the property, but more than that it reaches further than that into the earths ether. The thoughts then filter through to the young, the troubled, the vulnerable and the weak and replays in uncountable scenarios. History repeats itself. The vibration of energy is a powerful one, it can linger in buildings, families, locations, roads, even jewellery, so why not attach to a person too? Most people shake off dark thoughts after a couple of days, but the vulnerable and those with difficult lives soak up the vibration more easily and become more affected by it than a balanced and less troubled person might.

Psychic protection is very important as I always say, laughing at negativity is vital to disperse it and cleansing of dirty energy no matter where its location essential. There are many healers working in this way but not all take the necessary precautions of protection and their own auras become muddied which in turn affects their own health and mental well being. If you are someone that finds themselves in uncomfortable situations through work or home life try the cloaking exercise, see if you feel safer, less vulnerable, less jittery, less indecisive by using it. If you struggle to use it as a spiritual technique then use it as a mental one, a coping mechanism, it works well for children who are timid or fearful of new situations as does imagining that they are donning armour for protection. Let the child have control and imagine it for themselves, it empowers them and teaches them to use the mind as a tool. Use it yourself too whenever you feel the need and take note of the results. Good luck.

sensible healing

I'm an Advanced Reiki Master Teacher, Spiritualist Approved Healer and Medium amongst other things that people call me.

I'm often asked if I receive messages for people I don't know when I'm out and about and the short answer is yes, sometimes I do and I also 'pick up' or sense a person's mood or energy or an event that is close to them either in the past or coming in the future.

Many fledgling mediums or people who are sensitive but don't recognise their abilities have a habit of telling people when they sense something around them. It's hard enough gaining respect in the field of metaphysics and paranormal activity without acting like a fruit cake when in public. Telling people everything is always a mistake but novice mediums make it time and time again, never learning when to keep quiet or more to the point, never asking their guides if they should speak up. A medium should always question the source of their information.

Just because a medium/sensitive has sensed something about someone does not give them the right to comment on it. People like their privacy and like to believe that their thoughts are theirs alone. Some people are terrified of the idea that spirit people can watch them and dip into their lives when they choose. More people than you would believe have had difficult lives or tragic losses and clumsy attempts at mediumship and advice giving by someone they barely know or is a stranger to them can do more harm than good. Others are deeply religious and view mediumship as coming from the devil himself. That's fine, they're entitled to their opinions. However, telling someone that you sense something or a spirit around them, that they have a message for them, or to be careful when they are driving etc., is an invasion of their privacy.
The only time a medium/sensitive should interfere and tell someone what they are feeling is if they are asked to. There is no grey area, no maybes, the answer to the question of should I? is a straight no. Do not meddle however strongly you feel that you should - you will not be thanked for it.

The same discipline should be applied to absent healing.

Many healers hear of someone in need and are indeed often asked by a well meaning friend to send absent healing to a person in need. That's alright I hear you say. Yes it is - up to a point.

The one thing I learned when I did my Reiki courses after I spent six years as a trainee spiritualist healer is that healing is the same, from the same source, with the same intention and neither method is better than the other, it is merely choice. But the difference in teaching varies drastically and one of the teaching elements of spiritual healing is to attune to the spirit of the person who is asking for healing. This was not taught in Reiki and I have never yet heard of if being taught to Reiki healers (if I'm wrong please correct me, I am interested to know). I did my Reiki courses like everyone else - quickly, but my spiritual healing required me to work with people at healing sessions and I did so for at least three hours per week for years and have a mentor who answered my many questions over that time.

Reiki is taught as a benign source of energy that we can manipulate in our auras and physical bodies in order to bring about balance and well-being. Anyone can access the source because the intention of healing someone or self cannot cause harm hence the benign description. There is no need to attune to the patient, it is not even mentioned but in spiritual healing it is a critical part of the process between patient and healer and one that takes practise to get right (hence the training period - now reduced to two years).

The spiritual healer will sit with the patient and meditate until they connect with the spirit of that person which resides in the heart chakra. Then the healer will ask the spirit if healing should be given and will be received. Permission is sought from the higher self of the patient because there is the possibility that the person should not receive further energy and there could be many reasons for this that the healer and even the patient themselves could be blissfully unaware of. If the healer then proceeded to channel energy anyway it may cause harm in the long term. e.g. A patient asks for healing, the healer attunes with their spirit and it denies acceptance of energy. The healer channels anyway believing that they know best. The progress of disease is accelerated or delayed, causing disturbance to the natural flow of events and experiences for the soul of the patient leading them to have to start the process again, causing the soul anguish. The soul being the highest part of the person and therefore of ultimate knowledge regarding their path and fortune, it is linked directly to the spirit which is linked further to the physical body - making a chain of energy and contact. Therefore the spirit of the person has the answers to their physical life path and events it should contain. The exploration of psychic and spiritual realms may not be in their remit and a distraction from the physical existence they should be experiencing for example and the spirit is the contact the healer should make to determine if hands on contact healing should be given, absent healing where the person does not know they are in receipt of energy at all or none to be given by a healer.

A healer should remember that just because they are not to channel healing to a person does not mean that higher beings are not giving help and energy where it's needed. Perhaps the healer is not developed enough to channel the frequency needed or maybe is just not the right person for the job? The healer may never know why, but must always trust.

In my experience a usual Reiki healer will miss the attunement step and channel the energy anyway without any knowledge of if they should.

I'm not down on Reiki, don't get me wrong, I have after all invested in it myself, I'm just pointing out that the attunement step is vital if healers are going to be effective and successful in improving patients and changing their health and therefore the medical perception of healing practise. Without attunement patients may feel the benefits of restful relaxation and healing energy but their improvement progress may be fleeting and they could return to their previous state of illness and dysfunction if not even worse for the experience. The healers job is to facilitate the healing process for their clients/patients and sometimes this means not giving them what they ask for but instead being a listening ear and support whilst they experience the journey of the soul - however unpleasant or difficult that experience may be.

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Hi there, I have changed the settings on the blog to enable non-members to post comments and questions. I look forward to hearing from you. Avril

an extract from my novel Angelica's Promise

Verity and I take a walk with Rachel and Sean in the park as arranged. We feed the ducks as the sun warms our backs. The park is busy on such a summer day and I begin to notice all the things that people are enjoying that I will never do again.
A couple lie together on the grass and smile and caress each other. The dark skinned young man strokes his girl’s arm and whispers something in her ear that makes her laugh out loud. She flicks her long fair hair and the man kisses her neck while she giggles. I am jealous of their intimacy, something I may never experience again.
An elderly couple stand beside us feeding the ducks, they are so at ease with one another, smiling and holding hands when they leave.
A woman about my age is calling for her toddler son and when he comes running towards her she scoops him up and twirls him around with her cheek pressed against his. Then her husband joins them and kisses them both tenderly, he has his arm around her waist when they walk away.
A group of friends having a picnic laugh and joke around. They open a bottle of champagne, the cork flying into the lake causing more laughter and shouting.
All these things that seem insignificant on any other day to every other person are to me - piercing.

Monday morning comes around easily and the saying 'time waits for no man' is starkly clear to me. I want to suspend time, to have longer whilst I am well but the universe has other ideas. The sun rises and falls just to mock me and the moon orbits our planet to wink at me through the clouds and say 'won't be long now.'
I had no need to consider the horror of leaving my life before I was ready to, I was too busy enjoying it. Too busy grasping for the things I wanted in it. That includes Verity. I wanted a baby so much that I was willing to sacrifice my partner for it, burn his love in a flame of temper and desire to achieve my goal of being a mother. His opinions didn't mean anything to me while my injected hormones raged around in my veins. I was obsessed, some would say. Ben was the casualty in my campaign of war against the biological odds of my ageing and fertility - but it was worth it.
As I lie in bed now staring up at the ceiling, thinking over my actions and sometimes devious thoughts - I have to admit them - I feel ashamed and can feel the heat rise in my cheeks when I picture myself saying some of the hurtful things I threw at Ben. If I had been a man and not the woman he loved  he would have punched me and I would have deserved it.
A part of me feels let down that he didn't do something drastic like that to bring me up short. Wake me to my compulsion to ignore all that was good for me and trade it for something wonderful - yes - but something I allowed to cause destruction.
It wont do me any good to lie here chastising myself and feeling bad because it will set the tone for the rest of the day. This Verity's last week of school before the summer holiday and I need to tie up a few loose ends before I can devote our last summer to making it a memorable one.

creation of love exercise

This is a lovely exercise for you to try and was taught to me by a very dear friend (you know who you are). I remember the first time I tried it and was amazed at how easy it was to create the energy of love. Further to that it enables you to realise how easy it is to also create negative energy and how a thought has a form and power that has substance. You will understand more after you have tried this little gem.

As usual it's quick and simple to do and remember.

Find a quiet place where you wont be disturbed for a while and sit comfortably. The reason I tell you to sit and not lie down is simple, you are more likely to fall asleep if you get too comfortable and you wont have achieved meditation but you will have had a nice snooze!

Breathe deeply and regularly until you feel comfortable and at ease. With every out breath imagine all your stresses and worries leaving you and with every in breath imagine white light travelling into your lungs as it heals and brings peace to every atom of your being.

Now, think of love, how the feeling is, if it helps think of someone that you love deeply and then imagine your love as a pink light that is beginning to grow in front of you. Keep sending love to the pink cloud/bubble of love and do this until it is bigger than you are. Look at what you have created, admire what your mind is capable of. Take note of the colour and movement of your creation.

Now take a mental step forward and put yourself inside the centre of the love cloud you have created. It is safe to do so, afterall it's an extention of you.
What do you feel? What does it mean to you? What do you understand from this experience?
In your own time and when you are ready you can step back out of the love and return your full awareness to your own body. Don't waste the wonderful creation but instead ask the divine angels of light to collect it and use it where it will do most good, you don't need it anymore, you can create more whenever you like.

Do you now understand that creating negative energy is just as easy as creating love? The difference is that it takes more of your energy to create negativity whereas creating love is more natural to us and easier. You have choice over which you create and use in your daily life too.

Now you know how to create - easy wasn't it? - you can apply this to daily life. If someone is giving you a hard time, if they are grumpy, miserable, ill or grieving, whatever their circumstance you can either add to their misery (not deliberately) by feeding their negativity with sympathy, discussion, being angry on their behalf etc., or you can create love and surround them with it and help to dissolve their anger or misery. You can also add the white light of divinity and gold of the angels too if you want to, remember there is no wrong when you work with love, you can't harm another being with love as long as you don't attempt to control them. Love should offer freedom and learning and support, never control. You can use it for buildings and locations too where there is a stain on the atmosphere and also in conjunction with the cleansing exercise on this blog. Don't forget yourself too, cloaking your own aura in the light of love is the best psychic protection there is and creating love in the heart chakra brings about a feeling of self love. You could try the exercise in a pair or group and step into each other's love light and compare notes. Enjoy experiementing with the power of love and spreading it as far and wide as possible, the world needs all it can get.

See how you get on with this exercise and let me know how it works for you. Comments welcome.

how do you know when someone is close to death?

As a medium I am often asked if I can tell if someone is going to die soon and what I sense around such people. (I don't know why people ask me this I don't walk around with a black cowl and scythe.)

The answer is yes, I often can see if a person is moving to their passing stage but not always. Sometimes I just don't pick up on my senses if I'm involved in doing something else or simply not switching in or listening to my instincts, I can't be on high alert all the time, it's neither feasible, practical or worthwhile.

When a person is moving towards the end of their life, no matter their age, a breakdown of the aura can be seen. The aura is the electro-magnetic layer of the physical body and if the physical body is no longer requiring it, then it will begin to disperse. (There are plenty of google images of the human aura and chakra diagrams if you need to look it up.)

I usually see this as a greying aura, there will be no colour visible and there are thinned areas of the aura much like cotton wool when it is pulled and you can see strands joining the larger pieces together but it looks worn and threadbare. This thinning is a result of the spiritual energy no longer being fed into the aura but instead returning to nourish the soul in readiness for the return of an aspect of it i.e. your spirit. (I should point out here that the soul has many aspects to it and you, the being you are now in body, is not the only part of your soul experiencing some form of life right now, you are a fragment of your soul and its learning, not the whole). whew! that was deep.

Anyhow, if the aura is not receiving energy, then the physical body via the main chakras is not receiving energy either and that will in turn lead to a break down of the physical body and its major organs and blood system because it is not being fed properly.

I have seen living people cut off from their soul and this energy connection, they are usually ill, of grey pallor and struggle immensely with life but they keep hanging on because it is not their time to pass over yet. It is possible for such individuals to continue living in a body that is like a shell, it eats, sleeps, moves, has sex, talks but there is no reason or happiness, flow or pleasure in their lives, or feeling or expression of deep emotion.

When a person has reached their natural time, as I said - regardless of age or what we might determine to be their time to die, the aura will begin its natural degeneration.

The aura shrinks too at this time and moves in quite close to the body of the person. They might feel constantly cold, selfish (due to the disconnection with other earthly persons because the aura is no longer giving them emotional information) irritable, tired and frightened.

The conscious brain struggles to comprehend the destruction of the energy field because it is a subtle manifestation and the brain deals more with facts, figures and definite senses. However, those who are mediums or understand energy do recognise when they are becoming weak and nearing their own end as do many people who have never worked with energy, their intuition tells them that they are getting close.

As a healer there is nothing I can do to restore the aura when it has begun to degrade. I can meditate with the person and give them peace and some understanding, I can show them where to go and who will meet them removing any fear of passing that they might have and this gives enormous comfort to them. Neither can I slow the end for them, it's true that we all have a time slot and should we miss it by a long way we will then have to wait to be collected to make the short journey home. Our loved ones on the other side of life try their hardest to make us understand before we pass that they are waiting and excited that we will be joining them, (often through dreams and visions) but some people just miss the point and end up getting lost for a while anyway, usually through fear or atheism, but they will be fetched in the end, when their mind opens enough for them to see the beauty of life.

At the same time that the aura begins to break down the body's main chakras also begin to dysfunction and close. The first to go is the root, (as the energy system will close from the bottom up so as to end with the return to the soul which is from the crown of the head. It closes this way so that the human spirit, that rests in the heart will be pushed up to the crown and out the way it is safest and not be pushed down into the root and trapped by the lowest thoughts of existence that sit there in that chakra.)

When the root is in dysfunction incontinence will be experienced, this state may last for a long or short time depending upon the emotions of the person concerned or their acceptance of life and death, their overall beliefs, their view of ageing and what it brings and their health issues generally.

The next chakra to close is the sacral, bringing with it nervousness, kidney issues, liver problems, lower intestinal issues. Also regrets may be expressed and wishes of 'what if' and 'if only'.

The next is the solar plexus, bringing fear or peace depending upon the person. A disconnection with life and its demands and realism. A clinging sense and fear of being alone.

Then the heart chakra will end its cycle, freeing the spirit to roam out of the body and discover its new invironment whilst the physical body is still alive so the spirit can return to safety when in needs to. This is when the spirit friends and helpers will be around more closely to keep the passing person close.
There may be issues with the heart at this stage if not encountered already or through illness generally.
The person may be in and out of what we recognise as consciousness and be much sleepier than previously.

The throat chakra begins to close next and the person passing may find that there are things that they must say to ease their conscience, let people know that they love them or express their regrets. It's important that the throat ease out unsaid words as the spirit, that is now risen into the throat chakra, will be urging it to do so.

The third eye illuminates when the spirit reaches it. Suddenly things become clearer to the person passing as the third eye reveals a new world to them, one that they can go to, peacefully. The person can still deny this at this stage and many do, sadly, making it harder for them to pass on. It's also at this point that people who are considered to be at death's door often rally and seem lucid and bright for a short period before deteriorating further.

When reaching the crown of the head the spirit has the sensation of being born again back into the spirit world. They pop out to see something wondrous and often unexpected. There are loved ones to meet them and they become aware of the immense and powerful energy they carry now that they are out of the heavy and cumbersome physical body. This time should be one of great joy and often is, until that is they remember that they are also leaving people behind who mean a great deal to them. Such is life. It happens on the way here and on the way out again. We all meet together again in between those times and carry each other in our hearts. It is still possible even at this stage for the passing spirit to deny what is happening to them and become stuck in the gloom of the earthbound soul.

For the observer who can see energy at this last stage of leaving the crown the spirit is visible usually as a white mist, but one that has form. Not human form, but shape and outline. It moves quickly and is a beautiful sight.

There are clear signs when someone is going to be leaving us, if you know what to look for. The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying has some interesting observations about the closing down of the energy on the outside and on the inside too. My observations are my own. It's not always nice to see that someone's aura is breaking down, especially if I know that person but acceptance is the key to most things in life and nothing I can do will change when their soul has decided to move on. Death is the choice of the individual, the means, the time, the pain, the duration of demise all amount to the soul's choice. A long life is no measure to a life well lived and the duration of a person's life is no measure to their achievements. So live well, laugh and cram in as much as you can! That way you will have a lot to talk about on the other side.

how to connect with your own spirit

As with any exercise or tip I will give you this one is simple and easy and quick if you need it to be and can be done anywhere. No special tools or props are required and you can do this alone or with a partner or group. There are no rules only good practise.

The first time that you try this do it somewhere quiet where you will not be disturbed but then later with practise you should be able to do any of the exercises quickly, no matter how much noise surrounds you and you will be able to trust your own instincts.

Either lay or sit quietly (don't get too comfortable or you will fall asleep), a good place to connect with your spirit is in the bath. The water helps you to relax and also aids visualisations and spirit connection and usually the door is locked so that you feel safe and will be undisturbed.

Breathe deeply, a few times until you fall into the natural rhythm of breathing, rest a moment, there is no rush. In your mind, to yourself state that you intend to connect with your spirit, the spirit that resides within your heart centre and in the core of your being, the real you, your light. (Or words to that effect).

Then place the palm of your right hand on your heart centre to mark your intention and the palm of your left hand over your solar plexus to keep your power inward instead of reaching out for guidance as is often done. You are closing your energy circuit to enable your energy to flow around and within you rather than out and searching in the ether for knowledge.

Next take your concentration to behind your eyes, you reside there, you see the outer world from there, you gain information from there about others', about your surroundings, signals to survive your daily life and its demands. From here we are going into your inner world, to find your truths.

Imagine the hara line through the centre of the body. This is a strong centre line that runs from the crown of the head through to the root and down to the ground, it lines up all the major chakras and roots us to the earth as well as connecting us to the divine higher realms. I see my hara line as white and cylindrical, poker straight and full of light. This is the line that needs to be brought into sharp focus when you are asked to centre yourself and is the mainstay of the energy system much like our physical spine is to the human body.

Picture your hara line as a lift shaft - but full of white light. Your consciousness can travel up and down this shaft whenever you want it to. You can access the interior of the chakras by using this method and can cleanse them individually or see what the light inside them is like, how each chakra feels when you enter its environment and what may need attention or healing. It's an interesting exercise to try but do keep an open mind about what you might sense and always take the first thing that you see or sense as being the truth however odd you find it, you can puzzle it out later.

Now take your consciousness from behind your eyes down to the throat chakra and pause. Take a look at the entrance to the throat, what do you see? what is the colour? is the colour bright or murky? don't enter the throat chakra yet but instead travel further down until you reach the entrance to the heart chakra. How do you feel standing before the entrance? what colour are you presented with? is the colour clear and bright or not? do you feel apprehensive or eager to get into your own spirit and meet it?

However you feel, take a deep breathe, keep your consciousness in the heart and step forward into the cavity of the heart chakra. Be open to feel and sense, to receive and to communicate with your spirit.

What does your spirit look like? is it like you or different? is it pleased to see you? does it have information for you? is it displeased with you for some reason?

At this point you can ask questions, feel the responses, put in requests, express your desires. Whatever you want to do can be done here in complete safety and honesty. You are communing with your interior self and anything is possible. Sometimes you might want to meet with your spirit just to obtain peace and connection and no information will pass between you and that is alright too.

When you feel that you have spent enough time there you can retrace your steps. Notice the colours again as you return your consciousness to behind your eyes and see if there has been a change or improvement.

Remember after any meditation to centre and ground yourself (exercises on this blog) it's very important that you are able to function in the real world and not be distracted.

Make a few notes on what you experienced and compare them next time you do the exercise. It may only take you a few minutes to complete the connection or it may take longer, everyone is individual and you should give yourself enough time to make a strong and meaningful connection. Remember that there is nothing to fear from this exercise unless you are scared of yourself! Enjoy.

dreaming of the dead

We all dream. We may remember our dreams we may not. Typically we usually remember the more disturbing ones because our brain and body react to the stronger stimulus within them however we also remember deeply emotional dreams. Sometimes in the waking stage where we are rousing and coming to consciousness we have vivid images that can seem very real. This is the time when you should take notice and attempt to remember the content you receive as it is often in this state that we try to achieve during meditation. The state of being relaxed enough to accept what comes but just alert enough to coherently remember details and understand our visions, thoughts and feelings.

If you have a vivid dream or vision or even daydream that concerns a deceased person known to you then pay special attention to your emotions at the time, as you will be receiving the emotions of that person trying to communicate with you. Emotions often tell us more than words or expressions can as people are very good at hiding their true feelings although spirit people rarely do this - whether they can or not I don't know for sure, but I suspect not as they are pure energy and thought.

When you have a strong connection with this type of vision or dream it is often the spirit person trying to give you a message, so try to listen. You may dream of them if they are on your mind or you are concerned about them and this can just be your psyche reaching out to them and creating a meeting with them but a real meeting will have the emotion attached and you may receive information that you were previously unaware of rather than if the meeting is of your own creation so take your time to understand what is happening and keep a notepad and pen handy to record your feelings before you forget.

The thing I regard as most important is our gut instinct, our feelings about situations tell us more truths than we can question. We should always ask ourselves what makes us happy, what gives us the most pleasure, what fires us up and enthuses us with ideas and excitement? The answers you receive are from inside yourself, from your own spirit and it will never lie to you or mislead you. If we sense danger we shouldn't ignore that feeling, we can investigate our fear, check it is grounded in reality or phobia or deep rooted anxiety before panicking or acting upon it.

By the same token we should express ourselves freely too. We shouldn't fear our emotions, if we want to cry at a film, give someone a hug, pay someone a compliment or laugh - then we should. Our spirit demands that emotion for a reason and often that reason is for a release of energy or for an intake of energy. The spirit lives moment to moment - children are a great example of this as they haven't yet been conditioned to control their emotions or time. They do what they want when they want to do it. That of course is not practical in every day adult living but living emotionally intelligently is possible and necessary for a healthy body and mind. Radiate your spirit from within and let the love and hope that your spirit carries reach other people and don't be afraid to be yourself. In doing that you will find immense strength, creativity and freedom and your energy will flow healthily leading to positivity and mental well-being.

When you stifle your spirit, ignore your desires, suppress your nature then your energy becomes stale and a sense of stuckness comes about along with feeling trapped, depressed, uncreative and unhappy.

Being free of course does not mean that you can be offensive, aggressive or self-interested. All your actions demanded of the spirit must be for the highest good and harm no-one. You are meant to be spreading love and light, that is everyone's life purpose. Tolerance and understanding and development of the mind are the aims of the human spirit.

Try the energy cleansing exercise on this blog then meditate with the intention to connect with your spirit self which I will add tomorrow.

destructive doggy

I was asked a question not so long ago concerning a dog and his sudden change of behaviour.
Here's the thing - the dog was ten years old. It lived in the same house for years without any problems. The owners of the house started digging new foundations for an extension and were changing the internal layout of the property causing disruption and dust and noise and all the other stuff that goes along with such work.
The dog was fine with the workmen, the mess etc. However since opening up the basement which had been sealed due to damp since before the owners moved in, he had been growling and barking at empty space, scratching at doors to get out of rooms, being destructive and biting the bottoms of the doors to escape. Howling at night and chasing around the house too. He was off his food and stared at his owners alot as well as past them. He was spooking them out but worse - the owners were considering having him put to sleep because his behaviour had changed so much that he was hard to live with. The vet had checked out the dog and could find nothing wrong and could only offer dementia and aging as a diagnosis.
The aging process is a possible solution but I would focus more on the change of energy that had invaded his environment.
The house is old and is on farmland that has been undisturbed for centuries. Perhaps there is an old burial site beneath it and the renovations had disturbed the ancestors buried there. It could be that a victim of crime is risen again after being freed from their hidden grave. It could be something that the builders had brought with them, a roaming or lost spirit. It could be the spirit of an animal. It could also be simply a change in the energy frequency caused by the land being disturbed. Or even an underground waterway that is affecting the energy of the house that sits above it because of the digging in the basement and surrounding area. Or electrical pylons, mobile phone mast, minerals in the water etc.
It could also be that the dog was reacting to his food or other foreign influence such as a poison or natural toxin he had access too.
It's important to consider all aspects when looking into such a case. Just because something appears to be paranormal doesn't mean it is and all logical explanations have to be looked at first.
Personally in this case I thought that there was a spirit of a boy in the house and that the building works had brought him to activity, but I could come to that conclusion because I had investigated properly using my senses and knowledge added to the fact that I could plainly see the spirit of the boy when I went to the house. That's where a trained medium becomes the only person able to deal with the energies being created and the spirit person that needs help. I spoke to the boy, assured him that nothing bad could happen to him anymore and that I could show him the way home to people who cared about him or to the angels who would look after him. After some convincing he allowed me to take him to the path that would lead him into the light and his recovery. He had been murdered by his father two hundred years ago and hidden in what used to be a pond. The boy guided me to the spot, which had been dug up by the builders and new concrete laid. He also guided me to a well in the grounds. No such well seemed to exist until the owner began to dig in the spot and found - you guessed it - an old well.
An exorcist would have banished the child, a witch removed him and cleansed the property but where would the boy go? A smudging or cleansing ceremony would not rid the building of its guest and a healer would not necessarily 'see' the spirit. Only a medium with clairvoyant or clairsentient or clairaudient abilities could help in this case, because the others had been tried by the owner of the house and had failed. As usual - I was a last resort before the men in white coats came to take people away. Sleep deprivation, arguments about differing opinions and lack of understanding meant that it took the owners three years before they found me and the 'problem' was cleared up in thirty minutes. There is a place for healers and mediums in our society, we do a valuable job that no-one else can do but the medium must be genuine, moralistic, compassionate and trained. I have done spirit rescue in lots of situations - some nicer than others - but it is always worthwhile and satisfying when done right, mistakes can be costly - to the medium.
The dog is healed, the house finished and everyone happy about a positive outcome.

vampires

I'm currently reading the classic novel Dracula by Bram Stoker. Although I have read many books and seen many films in the horror genre the character of Dracula is one of the most enduring and fascinating. Bram Stoker's treatment of the elusive and secretive count is masterful leaving the reader knowing what a monster he is but also desperate to learn more about him but further succumbing to the romance of surrender to such a being. Although the writing itself is from a different era it remains clear and tantalising in the language used and I can't imagine it being written any other way and being successful in conjuring such a vivid picture of the era in which it was created.

That said, I began to wonder about vampires and if people believe in them in the Dracula sense or any other way they could be interpreted.

During my experience I have really only met vampires in the physical form of a human body and it's my guess that you all know one too - personally. Each of us knows the person that drains everyone they come into contact with. They always have a drama or a story that pins you down until you have no energy left. Or they are aggressive and critical and take your energy leaving you feeling useless, tired and beaten.

Energy vampires will offload their woes onto you, leave you feeling exhausted and go on their merry way feeling better. Of course they feel better, they have just taken your life force energy and consumed it and you have allowed it to happen.

Spirit vampires are rare and they certainly do not shape shift into the form of a bat or attach themselves to your neck! They are just the same as living ones and will try to take a bite out of your energy field. It is natural for all of us to seek energy when our own is low, the aura needs sustenance and a flow of cosmic and earth energy is needed to complete the circuit of our electro-magnetic body. Just as when we feel tired we might reach for a sugary snack to boost our energy the aura reaches out and searches for a shot of energy in the same way.

For an empath or healer this is a particularly difficult problem to live with but an easy one to solve. Without psychic protection you are open to such feasting from others, they see your energy, it glows and looks attractive and the natural light body part of a person will have a little taste in passing or take a chunk out of you over a longer time, this is detrimental to the empath/healer as they will tire easily and need more sleep to recuperate but then the cycle repeats itself and in the long term can lead to fatigue based illnesses. There is a post on here about psychic protection and how to perform it as well as cleansing the energy field which is paramount before you seal any undesirable energy inside with you.

Vampires in the physical body (as a person) usually try to instill fear in people and particularly children. Anything that promotes a fearful reaction means that the vampire can make a connecting cord that will provide him with a flow of energy over time, therefore he will try to intimidate, frighten, weaken his target. If you stand firm against such a person and resist their belittling attempts, not only will you feel better about yourself but you will have achieved a psychic protection technique I call blocking.

To block a person who is being confrontational, aggressive, passive aggressive or intimidating try this. You can use this technique as a spiritual one or if you have issues with spiritual belief then use it as a mental technique. It works particularly well with children who feel they are being bullied as it empowers them internally. Simply imagine a large mirror in front of you but facing away from you and at the person/vampire, this will reflect back to them the negative energy and thoughts they are sending to you. If you want to take this a step further you can imagine yourself inside a mirror ball, so that all angles are covered. However, I personally use the following technique to stop anything in its tracks. I have no patience or time for negative beings or actions and I give them little of my attention. I prefer to seal the offending being (physical or spiritual) within a crystal orb. I imagine a clear quartz crystal sphere surrounding the problem, I fill it with white light and the pink light of love. The crystal severs any cords that the being has managed to forge and cuts off their energy supply completely. Then I hand it over the the angels to deal with (simply by asking them to take over) and go about my day. I used to suffer with psychic attack on a regular basis (this can happen when you are developing and carrying a lot of light and power or simply through the jealousy of others) but I never suffer with it now since using my crystal technique, negativity is quickly and easily dispensed with at little energetic cost to me. Try it and let me know if it works for you.

2012

There is a lot of talk about 2012 at the moment and the predicted changes that will happen to our planet. We have heard that there will be earthquakes, floods, fires, energy shifts, polar shift, planetary alignment, alien invasion, death and destruction. Sounds just like the end of the world doesn't it?
Some of the above things will happen, certainly the natural disasters, because they happen anyway on quite a regular basis if you follow international news you will know that. No-one can predict such things and maintain their credibility unless they are scientific predictions and precautions can be given to save lives. To predict them as a matter of course is to state the obvious, of course they will happen - in time.
As for the other things listed I understand that there is a polar shift that scientists are aware of that will happen this year in December. Also there is a planetary alignment that rarely happens that will take place. (you can google your own research on these events). As for aliens...well they're already here so nothing to fear there. Why should we fear anything? sometimes mans' sense of self preservation is so strong that he loses his reasoning regarding acceptance of other life forms and the true threat they pose. If we are to die, what then? will the world end, will life cease for ever, as individuals will we be alone?
No. None of these things will happen. We will continue to exist in our natural state of the light body - this physical body is only a temporary vehicle for us anyway. We will continue to love and learn and be in a state of acceptance - so that's not frightening is it.
What frightens me more is when people pass up opportunities, neglect their health, don't live life to the full - because of fear.
There are those groups of people who will fully embrace the energy changes this year will bring and they will immerse themselves in the knowledge and experience of it. There will be those people too who ignore and think ridiculous the forecast changes and that is their choice, they will continue to be physical and ignorant of the sensitivities of the human spirit and the meaning of life. Then there are those of us who sit somewhere in the middle expecting something to happen, but not wishing to be in the centre of things and certainly not wishing to suffer for the changes to occur - we will leave the suffering to others and be thankful that our lives wont be disrupted too much.
In all things there must be balance so there is a place for all of the groups and their thoughts and beliefs. I don't think that worry is a useful emotion regarding 2012 and neither is obsession. What will be will be and as with all things in life acceptance is the key to a smoother ride, so notice the changes, welcome them, be curious about your world but allow those who are in a better position than you to do what needs to be done to manage the changes. All you have to do is look after yourself and those you love and carry on as usual.

philosophy - channelled 11 Feb 2012

Giving in to human nature is as close as you get to giving up. The human spirit is so strong, so resilient and yet simple will power overrules it so easily. The mind is a powerful tool, hardly used as yet by mankind, but still you give your power away, to a lover, to jealousy, to vices, to those who seem more powerful than you. Never give up your independent mind, will and actions. You are an individual and are allowed to make your own choices, it is the only way forward spiritually speaking. Those that love you will love you anyway.

Sometimes mistakes will be made, but how else will you learn? Sometimes choices will be difficult but the heart must always have the higher ground, you know deep inside what you are to do, who you are to love, anything less is compromise and unfair to the other party - everyone deserves true love, deep, lasting and respectful love.

Our choices are what make us. Some are braver than others, will travel far and wide to seek answers for their soul, others will travel in their mind and dreams more than body, but wisdom will still be sought and found.

Being truthful with yourself is what is most important, you cannot hide the truth from the soul and the soul shares its knowledge with others in the soul group, there is a collective learning as well as an individual truth that must be found. The soul is bright, calm, searching always for more in its healthy state, some souls do fragment or split due to deep trauma but all is healed in time and all learn from it.

The soul wastes nothing, even when things are bad for you individually, your soul is growing. When you struggle with earthly situations and you ask for your angels to help you sometimes they cannot. If your soul has agreed to experience a certain set of circumstances then your spirit will have to undergo them. No angel, guide or healer can interfere with soul choices, but healing can be brought for understanding, peace and balance whilst the situation is present. In the end everything is alright no matter what the outcome.

The light is a gentle power where your spirit feels at home, you can bring it into your everyday life whilst in the body, no need to wait for death. Harness the power you have available to you, ask for it to come to you and it will. You do not need faith, religion or ritual, only the will.

soul groups - in response to a question

It is believed and accepted in spiritual thinking that no-one is alone, we are independent in thought and action but our behaviour also affects other beings who are in our soul group and those beyond that boundary.

For the purposes of understanding think of your soul group as your family, friends and those people who are special in your life - just like here on earth but in the higher dimensions.

Think of a target with the bullseye, the inner circle and outer circle. Now imagine that the bullseye is where you and all your nearest and dearest live, they are closest to your heart and affect your life on many levels so are considered your core soul group.

This group travels together and learns together almost as a collective consciousness. They experience many lives together, all playing different parts during the lifetimes of learning. For example, your brother may once have been your father or you his wife, your dearest friend may have been a sibling or parent once before, the soul group has to act out all scenario's possible if they are going to progress and understand everything that life can teach them. Remember that the soul does not recognise things that are painful or wrong, difficult situations or heartbreaking circumstances - it is all learning and there is no wrong, only experience as far as the intelligence of the human soul is concerned. In order for the soul to understand something it must have experienced it first hand, it cannot take a shortcut and learn from other soul groups, it must absorb the energy itself, process it, understand and then move on to the next scenario in their development.

There will be some members of our core soul group that live away from us whilst on earth. They have chosen or volunteered to diversify and bring other learning into the group aside from the main issues that need to be understood. You may recognise someone from your soul group when you meet them as a person that you feel instantly comfortable with, you recognise them even though you have never met in your physical lives before. There seems to be a bond, sometimes very deep, that draws you to one another.
This connection does not mean that you should be together, does not mean that life would be easier if you were or that you are meant for each other. The contrary many be true however, that you are on very different paths and in fact you would not find happiness together as there would be a conflict of interests between the mind of the person and the intention of the soul.

You're probably asking "how do I know when I meet someone if they're the person I should love and spend my life with?" Easy - time. Spending long enough with someone, doing different activities, living together will show you if there is a conflict of interests, if you are compatible, if your aims and dreams are the same. These days couples get together too quickly for their relationship to develop naturally, before long a baby comes along and changes the dynamics of their pairing and lives are changed through commitment or absence.

Let's move to the inner of the target. This layer of soul group members will usually comprise of friends and colleagues and extended family. People who you are connected to but whose lives do not directly influence your own. These will present with situations, good and bad, that you may be able to influence because your soul has gone through that process already and you are bringing them along with you and encouraging them to keep up with the core group. If just one member of a soul group fails to grow and develop along with the others, the whole group will be held back and the situations experienced will have to be relived. This inner group are also our support network and allow us to observe experiences to deepen our understanding of them.

The outer ring of the target belongs more to the peripheral people in our lives. We may seldom have contact with these persons, but they are there and sometimes touch our lives. Occasionally you will meet someone from any of the circles of your soul group, something about them will stir you and there is always an emotional element to the recognition of them. Trust your instincts, asks the question of yourself and see what answer comes to you - the right answer is always the first.

Guides, Guardians and Angels do not belong in our soul group. They are teachers and when they reach an appropriate level of development they are able to split and work independently whilst still under supervision of the hierarchy that exists in the higher plains.  We are forever connected to our soul group but then we are all connected to each other too.

Look at your family and friends again and see if you know them more than you think you do. What do you imagine they have worn in a past life? what activity do you see them doing in another life? who do you see them with? Above all offer tolerance and love because you are all in this together and what you send out you in turn receive. If you want love you must create love first for yourself and then you will attract love to you.

working with spirit

Something that really bugs me is the way ghosts and spirit are portrayed in the media. They are shown to be sensational, a source of entertainment and even something to be hounded and hunted.
This is a very sad state of affairs in my opinion for obvious reasons. The ghost or spirit is a person.
Would you expect to see a living person treated in the same way for the purpose of entertainment?
A ghost is different from a spirit, that is true. A ghost is the spirit of a person that has become stuck in the ether of the earth. They are unable to move on to their spiritual home because of their mental state, their emotions, their attachment to a place or person or perhaps because of a very quick death that has left them confused. I have met ghosts who have died unexpectedly and are shocked to find themselves unable to relate to the physical world as they once did. With such isolation enforced upon them they then become frantic in many cases and their mental state worsens. The key to working with them and understanding them is simply to treat them as you would a living person, they are no different and deserve compassion and respect.
There is nothing to fear from spirit or ghosts, they usually only want help. Some might resist though and that's when you need a medium to intervene, someone who can communicate and "hear" the voice of the spirit.
I don't believe that a spirit or ghost should be accepted as living with you in a home either. They belong in their own dimension and should not be lingering here with us, it does them no good and delays their progress and that of their soul group.
I hear of many people who seem to accept that they have a ghost living with them, that they talk to them, are comfortable with them around. I say that if a spirit is hanging around you, watching you dress, at intimate times, giving you their thoughts uninvited, getting into bed with you - you have a major problem.
In the same way that we should respect spirit they should in turn respect us. They must not pry, spy or influence us in any way and if they are doing so it is unhealthy and wont be a spirit who has passed over to the higher realms of life but an earthbound soul who is living through you, experiencing things through your body and emotions as it feeds from your emotional energy. This situation can also lead to negative overshadowing where the spirit can become anchored in the aura (to the mental and emotional bodies of you) and influences your choices, tastes, behaviour, humour and actions. (There is a form of overshadowing that is allowed by the medium and the energy bodies are shared with spirit but this is done properly, with guidelines in place and chaperons to facilitate a safe demonstration). This is not a healthy relationship as it would not be in a normal human interaction. Would you have a stranger living in your home and telling you what to do, what to feel, how to act? I doubt it.
Always apply logic and normal thinking to a spiritual situation, keep your reasoning simple, question everything and use your gut instinct to be successful at reading situations, spirit and living people and you won't go far wrong.

Being a medium

It's a funny thing being a medium. Once your mind has been opened to new possibilities you can't go back. Suddenly you think on multi levels of existence and using the brain for simple day to day functions seems like such a waste of intelligence. You consider how your actions will affect not just those that you share your physical life with but those spirit and light beings that also give you input and guidance.
As a medium you are working as part of a team, no-one does anything alone, here or there, all success is achieved as a soul group and any misfortune is also felt by all that are connected together.
The medium doesn't get much peace and quiet either. You might sit down with a nice cup of coffee and a biscuit or for a little sneaky doze during the day but spirit will have other ideas for your time whilst your thoughts are receptive to them. Before you know it your little daydream has turned into a full blown conversation with a spirit relative of your friend who wants them not to worry about something or other or to get the car tyres checked or remember someone's birthday! The medium is nothing if not a messaging service.
Even when a medium is switched off and going about their own business spirit will find a way of being noticed. You can be on a train, enjoying the countryside whizz by and a spirit might sit next to you and want you to pass on a message to the woman in the seat three down from yours or you might see an accident victim waiting by the roadside whilst you're driving, trying to get picked up and taken home. It never ends you see, they are everywhere. It's all well and good communing with your spirit guides and helpers who you have learned to recognise and know have your best interests at heart but it's a different matter dealing with strangers.
The same rules apply to stranger danger in spirit as they do here. Just because someone has left their physical body doesn't mean they suddenly turn into a nice and trustworthy person, you still have to check them out and  use your psychic protection, they retain their personality always and their anger and negative emotions until they cross over properly.
The biggest hazard relating to mediumship and particularly rescue work is contamination and I hark back to some of my earlier posts about cleansing the energy system and its importance. Without cleansing we become bogged down with problems that aren't our own and without the cord cutting exercise we can even manifest in our lives the problems of others and of those that we help. Remember to disconnect your energy from others, stay as a singular clean being and at least you will know that if any problems do come along they are yours. Check out the cord cutting exercise on here and the energy cleansing visualisation.

Angels

I know angels have been done to death with books, films, true stories, cards etc., there couldn't be more about them on the planet but there are still those people who don't believe in their power.
I think the term "angel" can put the sceptic off even giving them thinking time. They think that we're all nuts and talking about angels and their role in our lives just about puts the tin lid on the subject and their opinion of our sanity.
I do believe in angels - there I said it out loud.
I don't believe in them because I read about them or watched a film with them in. Nor do I believe in them because there are pretty pictures of them everywhere you look or because they're in the bible and I might go to hell if I deny their existence. My belief is much simpler. I have seen them. Yes, with my own eyes, sober, in daylight, lots of times and no - I'm not nuts. Nor do I have a brain or optical condition which predisposes me to see feathers or lights or hallucinate or daydream or any other excuse you could chuck at me.
As with any spiritual experience like seeing a ghost or connecting with a spirit person, there is an emotional element to the contact. That's always the key for me you see, the emotional sensation that is so powerful and comes out of nowhere before I see the spirit/ghost or angel. For me it is a measure of how well I am working if I can receive an emotion from the visitor. I'm not an emotional person in nature so to suddenly feel like crying, or be incredibly happy or feel immense love (that can't be replicated by any other stimulus) does not happen from moment to moment, it only happens when I work with spirit, guides and of course, angels.
For you to connect to your angels all you have to do is ask them to come around you and to help you with your life. They can't help you, no guiding spirit can, without your permission and request that they do so.
So give them some work to do so that they're not sitting around on a cloud twiddling their thumbs! Bring them into your life, ask them for the things you need to make your life bearable and happier but remember that angels of the divine light will not make you rich, make you sexier, give you a more interesting personality and so on, they are there to nurture your soul and have your highest interests at heart, not the shallow physical ones we attach so much importance to.
There is nothing to fear from your angel, unless you are afraid of love that is.
One more thing to mention is that the way they work might not be the way you expect but results will manifest and in the end your life can only be enriched by their presence in it.